Holidays- by Livet

Coping with Holiday Stress

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Think back and you may remember that Holiday season was the best time of the year. School was out, and all you had to look forward to was lot's of free time, great gifts, fabulous food. You might even remember the day Santa Claus brought you your first bicycle. It was hard to believe that the present of your dreams had actually arrived. You knew you’d always remember it as the best Christmas ever.

Fast forward a few years. Last year around the same time it’s Christmas week, and you’re a basket case. You don’t think you’ll ever be able to finish all the shopping, the wrapping, and the decorating in time for the big day. You also have visits to make, cards to send, and donations to mail out. You start panicing: Are the gifts just right to let the person know how much you care? Did you buy enough for everyone. Will one child get better presents than the other? You are dealing with full-fledged Christmas stress, and it shows no signs of abating.

The stress of the holiday season can be trying in the best of circumstances. But if you’re dealing with other major stressors, such as the recent death of a loved one, holiday stress can seem unbearable. You are watching the balance in your Life Bank going negative. It may be true for you cash bank as well, which will further set your Lifebank Balance back. You might be so tense that you cannot enjoy any holiday-related activities. You might snap at your children or your spouse, and you might find yourself unable to focus at work.

There are many causes of holiday stress. To begin with, you might be striving to fulfill unrealistic expectations. You might have a perfect postcard view of the holidays—a vision that no human being could expect to realize. Your impressions of holidays might have been formed by the movies, where families gather around a tree and sing Christmas carols in perfect harmony. You just want to re-live that feeling of magic and joy that you felt as a child.

Another common cause of holiday stress is having too many people on your Christmas list. You might expect yourself to buy for not only members of your immediate family, but also for teachers, friends, distant relatives, and co-workers. You don’t want to leave anyone out, so you create a list that even Santa Claus would find difficult to fill.

You might also be suffering from the stressed-out host syndrome. You might have been elected to hold Christmas festivities at your house, and you’re panicked. You’re striving to decorate the house, trim the tree, grocery shop, bake cookies, and prepare fudge. You don’t know when you’ll have time to string the lights in front of your house, or to mount the Christmas cards on the fireplace.

Family members might be contributing to your stress. Your children might be demanding the latest video games, even though you’re budget will never accommodate them. Ask your child if they remember what they got last year. They probably will remember a stocking and maybe one or two bigeer items. Kids love to open "lots of presents" but in the long run they will not remember what they got.

our mate might be demanding that you increase your share of the holiday chores. Your parents might be demanding to stay a week or more at your house, creating further tension for your household.

The fact is, you can enjoy the holidays while reducing your stress level considerably. This begins with engaging in some pre-holiday planning. Write a list of your goals for the holidays. What do you really want to accomplish this year? What can you realistically do on your own, and what will you need help with? Putting your aims in writing can help to give you some peace of mind. Once you have your list go back over it again. Look at each goal and task and number the list with A=must get done before the holiday, B=it would be nice if it did get done, C=could do if have time available. Once you have the list you can focus on A list first and prepare yourself for the fact that C list may not realize. Fact is that it will still be a great holiday even if you never get to the C list as long as you focus on what's important.

It’s also important that you set your own agenda for the holidays. Don’t let other people dictate the agenda for you. In this way, you can ensure that your needs are met, before you attempt to fulfill the needs of others. Chances are, your goals are not to buy presents for everyone you’ve ever met or to get out every decoration you’ve ever owned. Rather, your goal is probably to have a safe, festive holiday where you, your family and friends can enjoy the festivities. Realizing what your true goal is, and mapping out a way to get there, can help to reduce your stress.

There is no denying that holidays make additional demands on your time. However, through appropriate time-management techniques, you can work to ensure that you are not overwhelmed by responsibilities. If you have a difficult task to face, consider enlisting the aid of family and friends. Sharing the load can reduce your stress level remarkably. Also, you have to strike the idea that you must have the perfect holiday. Instead, strive to create a holiday that’s good enough…good enough to make you smile…good enough to bring joy to your loved ones. Also, spend at least part of your holiday preparations doing some good for someone in need. You’ll find the experience rewarding—and it should help you to better cope with holiday demands.

Tips for Holiday Stress

Stress Tip 1 List the feelings you remember when your were young: warmth, festive, fun, love and caring. If you notice it's the feelings we remember much more than things or how things were decorated.
Stress Tip 2 Balance the stress with fun activities. Include everyone in the process of preparation. Does every gift have to be wrapped perfectly? Have your kids wrap gifts.They can go in the back of the tree and under the ones you wraped perfectly.
Stress Tip 3 We are always looking to achieve the magazine cover look for our home for the holidays. But it's the imperfections that give you the special home-made feeling of the holidays. Decorate with the basics first. Add extras if you have time. No one can tell if you only put out half of the things you own and the rest is left for next year.
Stress Tip 4 Thoughtful, personalized gifts are important for immediate family and friends. For teachers get together with other parents get group gift.
Stress Tip 5 Remember green ($) is everyones favorite color. Gift cards are easy to purchase in small amounts and are great for those you want to just say I though about you. Shop on the internet, you will save time and you can shop in the same stores without fighting the crowds. You can even buy groceries on line.
Stress Tip 6 As you get older the circle of family and friends grows. Keep gift exchange to only those within your immediate circle. Let your friends in the outer circles know that you will not be exchanging gifts with them anymore before the holiday season starts. Chances are they are in the same situation as you and will be happy to do the same. Also see Stress Tip 7.
Stress Tip 7 The most prcious gift: The gift of time. Instead of the gift wrap an offer to do activities together with your friends and family. Give a movie outing, dinner or lunch together, schedule time to go bowling, or golfing, playing cards. You will spend less money for the holidays and spend the time you would have shopped for your friends actuall having fun with your friends.
Stress Tip 8 When you plan your activities add 25 % of time for unscheduled activities. So for every hour plan only 45 minutes and leve 15 minutes for unscheduled events. Out of every 4 hours plan activities for 3 hours. If you find that your stress is not going down leave more room for break between the activities and look at your goals again. Can some of the goals be changed or eliminated from your list?
Stress Tip 9 Always go back to Stress tip 1. Your list of the feelings you remember. When you focus on creating magic of the holidays for you and your family, your feelings will guide you to what is important. How much does each task listed on your to-do list add to that feeling. Eliminating the tasks that do not add anything to creating these feelings can help you cope with stress during the holidays.
Stress Tip 10 Have a safe and happy holiday filled with magic, your magic!